Oh to be a cat….

Sometimes after a long hard day, I come home to find my cat in the same place she was when I left! Do they really stay there asleep all day? Do they ever get bored? Imagine a life where…….. you can sleep as long as you want, someone else feeds you, if you make a […]

Change…….. a scary monster?

Times of change can be very stressful and scary. We find ourselves focusing on the past as we enter new phases…. The what if’s? the maybes, the how could I have done better? But, what if …….. we instead focus on the opportunities that change will bring? Focus on the positives, the hope, the new […]

You can’t control others…

We are all different. Different core values, beliefs and thought patterns. If someone else’s behaviour is impacting on yours in a negative way, the chances are it comes from a background of differing values. If it stresses you out, walk away. We don’t have to participate in other people’s negative or contradictory behaviours. Stay true […]

A new piece in my jigsaw!!

As my readers know, I had a tough week last week. But, sometimes we have to have tough weeks to grow. This time, I was able to use my feelings of insecurity and disappointment to work out another of the important missing pieces in the question of ‘Who am I?’. This is how I did […]

Satisfaction

It has been a tough week. It is Sunday afternoon and I am still feeling the effects. Yes…….. even though I said on Friday night I was going to put my ‘big girl’ knickers on and put it behind me. So, why can’t I? Well, I think I have realised why. It is all tied […]

I let myself down….

So this week I have let myself down. Things haven’t quite gone according to plan and instead of dealing with it in a non emotional, non stressed way……. I let it get to me and worse still……… I let it drag me down. This was the overriding thought going through my mind ……….. Why is the world is against […]

Happiness and satisfaction

Ultimately these are the two things most humans are trying to achieve; happiness and satisfaction. We go through ebbs and flows, highs and lows. As a kid, we think life is meant to be all sunshine and rainbows. It takes us a while to realise that is not the way it is going to pan […]

Absorbing other people’s stress (or not)

So here is a test for the recovering stressaholic……… learning the ability to not take on other people’s stress. All around us people are stressed. Stressed because they are too busy, the kids are misbehaving, work isn’t going well or finances are strained. So, when you are dealing with your own stress, taking on someone else’s can […]

Validation (again)

I have talked about this before……… We all want validation but the only validation that really matters is from yourself. Be happy with who you are. ‘Validate’ yourself. This is the single most important step to a recovering ‘stressaholic’. It means you don’t need to overload yourself in the pursuit of ‘success’. Success is within. […]

We need to talk about it…..

Hello world! I am a self-confessed recovering ‘Stressaholic’. Unwittingly I had actually been seeking stress, feeding off adrenaline and cortisol and seriously detrimentally affecting my health. Through my own journey I am beginning to understand there is an epidemic out there. Our current fast paced lifestyle is breeding mental health illnesses including depression and anxiety, as well as […]