So, these are the things I have noticed this week while concentrating on being present:
- The tiniest slit of a moon in the morning sky over the pool.
- An amazing orange/apricot cloud as the sun rose.
- A Vinnie’s bin in the school car park (random, but I must have driven past it for months and not noticed), so I filled it with bags of clothes we no longer need.
- My son’s need for me to notice him and for him to have time just with me (All I needed to do was take him for a milkshake).
- My daughter’s golden hair. A new hairbrush can make so much difference!
And then there are the things I noticed about me:
I just want validation. I just want to know that I am doing the right thing, saying the right thing, feeling the right thing. But, here is the funny bit. I noticed …… there is no right or wrong. I am just ME and I can only do what I think is right in the moment. And, this is totally ok!
I watched an awesome speech by a very clever lady called Oprah. She mentioned this very point. We all want validation, we all want someone to say we did ok. She has interviewed thousands of famous people and the first thing they ask when the camera goes off……………….. “Was that ok?”. Didn’t matter who they were.
TURNS OUT, I AM JUST HUMAN!!
Also, it appears this is all my son wants from me too. He wants my validation.
But, at the end of the day……. the only person who can truly give us validation is ourselves. How many times have my parents or my husband told me I have done well, for me to, in all honestly (sorry you guys!), not believe them. To think they were just saying that because it was what I wanted to hear. This is because I wasn’t validating myself.
I am a super lucky human being. I am grateful for my family, my friends and the life that has opened to me since running my business. I am grateful to have a job that is always in demand. I am grateful to be able to help others.
I am going to concentrate on living in the present and giving myself validation or as I mentioned in an earlier post, I am going to approve of myself. It is time to stop requesting validation from others or at least placing so much importance on the opinion of others. Hopefully, this will help give me direction with what is next. But, for now I am 40 and I am grateful and lucky to be ME.