Life is about overcoming obstacles, yet to so many of us, the obstacles seem to become life. Somehow, we become focused on all the things going wrong and that are being thrown in our path. We blame all these external things for our internal turmoil. We completely forget we have the power. The power to overcome and the power to control how the obstacles affect us. We have the power to our own happiness.

We almost never give ourselves a pat on our back and congratulate ourselves on getting through that tough time. If you are anything like me, that is because you are already focusing on that next challenge or obstacle on the horizon!


I know we are not supposed to look back and dwell on the past, but sometimes we have to look back to see where we have come from. It is the only way to see growth.


Because, no one else is going to pat you on the back (well not often in this adult world anyway) and no one else knows what you went through to get to today.

I am sick of worrying about what other people think. I am sick of waiting for other people to see things like me. I am sick of justifying and waiting to be validated. I am wasting precious time. The only person who can validate me, my actions and my achievements is me.

My husband has told me about this phenomenon that happens some time in your 40s. It is called the ‘F$&@ you’ stage (excuse my French). It is basically that moment when you start to realise you don’t care about what anyone thinks about you any more. I am sort of (because it seems to also mean an admission of middle age!) pleased to say I am getting there. It is so close…….. I can feel it.

I am nearly ready to say F$&@ YOU. Not to anyone in particular of course, but almost to that voice inside my head that doubts everything I do, that questions whether whatever I am doing is good enough.

I am just really worried about something………. what if it accidentally starts with a proper ‘F$&@ you’. What if I get too carried away in the moment of my epiphany and actually say it to someone?!!!!


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